‘My ex cheated and moved the other man into our flat – I got revenge’

Being cheated on is horrendous, but one man was left even more enraged when his unfaithful partner then asked him a mortifying question – and he wanted revenge.

He explained they had been through a “nasty break up” because she’d been having an affair with a man they both knew from high school.

“She said she was moving out, but I noticed she hadn’t packed anything and did not seem concerned about living arrangements. I had a gut feeling there was more to this,” he explained on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum.

He admitted he’d “resigned” himself to living with her for the last two months of the lease, which he wasn’t too pleased about, but knew he’d just have to deal with it.

The anonymous man continued: “We had 2 bedrooms, she moved into the other one. She seemed agitated that I hadn’t left. Finally she started an enormous fight that got so bad I had to leave and stay with a relative for the weekend.

“While I was gone, my apartment reached out to me. They said she was willing to let me out of my lease, as she had a new roommate who could take over my spot on the lease. She did this the day I paid rent.”

He said he almost agreed to do it, but then he thought about it some more and “said no.” That’s when he found out who his ex was planning on living with.

He raged: “That person she was moving in was the person she cheated on me with. I paid for all the furniture in there. I paid for the bulk of our bills. If she wanted a new start with this person, they needed to pay for it themselves, not do it off of my back.”

The scorned man was so annoyed with the situation that he noted it was “in the lease” that someone could not move in without his permission – which he did not want to give.

“Spitefully, I was willing to pay the next 2 months of rent to not give them that,” he admitted, saying: “It worked, their plans were ruined and they had to leave. I know I had somewhere safe to stay, but I was so done being used and manipulated.” He then asked whether he was in the wrong for doing what he did.

In the comments, people were concerned about the boundaries the man had set during the relationship, asking: “Did she really think you would just move out and not take your stuff with you?”

He responded: “Yes, and that’s probably my fault. I was really bad in the past with drawing boundaries with her, and she had done similar things before and gotten away with it.”

Someone said: “You’re the a**hole to yourself for allowing the girl to use and abuse you. Block her and move on.” Another retorted: “He allowed it in the past but that doesn’t make him an a**hole, he was a victim but now he’s got stronger boundaries, better self-respect, and isn’t being a punching bag anymore and that deserves celebration. Leaving abusers/not tolerating their abuse is so hard and he’s done incredibly well with this incident.”

“You deserve so much better than her. You will be better off without her,” a Redditor said.

Another fumed: “Your ex sounds like one of those people who just expect things to always be resolved in their favour. Good for you for not giving in. She can cheat. She can end the relationship. But she doesn’t get to dictate how everything plays out. People like her sometimes forget that part.”